It doesn’t matter if you have one child or six of those little fuckers running around. Self care should be your first priority! Yeah yeah, everyone says that your child should be at the top of your list, but in all honesty, you can’t make sure anyone else is OK unless you are OK!
We are not just “Moms” either! We are wives, daughters, sisters, employees, bosses… I mean the list is endless. But yes, we are the primary caretakers for our children ( and husbands!).
My entire life people use to tell me all the time that I wouldn’t find love until I learned to love myself. I never really knew what that meant until I had my son. I was a hot mess in the beginning of my sons life. I was a single mom and didn’t have a damn clue what I was doing. I ran myself straight into the ground emotionally, physically, and mentally because ALL of my time and energy went into my son. I never left any time out for myself.
“You carry so much love in your heart for your family, why not give yourself some of that same love?”
In the midst of all the chaos in my “First Time Mom” life, I thought it was hilarious when someone told me that I needed to set time aside for myself, and make sure to take care of me. I would just laugh and laugh as i tried to scrape off the baby spit up that had been dried onto my shirt that I wore to bed the night before! Yeah, I was lucky to even find time to take a fucking shower. HA!
“Loving yourself isn’t vanity, its sanity!”
The first year and a half of my sons life I was so deep making sure he had everything he needed, and that I was a good employee, a good friend, a good daughter etc, that I completely lost …..well, ME! It got to the point that when I sat down to think about doing something for myself, I couldn’t even remember what I did before I had my son! I lost myself. I didn’t know who I was anymore. Krystle was missing. I was Mom. And that’s it.
I was drained completely and new it was time to try and take care of myself. But how? there just isn’t enough time in the day to do the Mom Thing, Work Thing and Every Thing else there is to be done.
My son is going to be three years old this September, so I like to say I have caught my footing a little bit. Over the last two and a half years I’ve learned that self care doesn’t have to be big, extravagant , or take up that much time! Self Care doesn’t have to be full body massages twice a month, or $50 Manicures! And you dont have to set aside hours and hours of time either. It’s much more simpler than that.
Simple Self Care Care Tips
So there ya have it. Just a few simple self care tips to start you out. They really are helpful. And your family will be thankful as well. No one wants a stressed out crazy mom. They want a happy joyful one.
Always make time for yourself! YOU are always your first priority.